By Mitch Albom
“Here is what you are going to find out about marriage: you have to work at it together. And you have to love three things. You have to love 1) Each other. 2) Your children (When you have some! Hint! Hint!). 3) Your marriage.
What I mean by that last one is, there may be times that you fight, and sometimes you and Catherine won’t even like each other. But those are the times you have to love your marriage. It’s like a third party. Look at your wedding photos. Look at any memories you’ve made. And if you believe in those memories, they will pull you back together.”
Learning more about each other, ourselves, and our relationship day by day.
Wanting to do things that matter when I breathe by last. Meeting Gitty is one of them. We talk about life, death, meaning, peace, simplicity, happiness, the present. We are going to live in the present and savour the experience. She lent me The Monk Who Sold His Ferrari, and Happiness is a State of Mind.
An old man, a young man, and life’s greatest lesson
By Mitch Albom
“Devote yourself to loving others, devote yourself to your community around you, and devote yourself to creating something that gives you purpose and meaning.”
“When you learn how to die, you learn how to live.”
“Building your own little subculture… The little things I can obey. But the big things- how we think, what we value- those you must choose yourself. You can’t let anyone- or any society- determine those for you.”
I can’t remember when exactly I first read Tuesdays with Morrie. I so easily get distracted by the hustle of activities. I become oblivious to the plights of my patients in the midst of getting the job done. And of course, trying not to do stupid things and end up delaying things. Empathy disappears when I’m stressed, and I don’t like that. I don’t want to be lost in the moment and only reflect on and rue the moment I have lost.
Can I live by my own rules? How do I stay on top of the my game so that I can enjoy the moments, the interactions with my patients while I work? So many questions, to which the answers come later on with hindsight.
14 Feb 2016, Valentine’s breakfast at the beach by him.
1 May 2017, Spur of the moment after cycling
4 May 2017 Stew by Us
4 May 2017, Chicken stew by us
15, 16 July 2017, our favourite breakfast at home, Day 1 by him, Day 2 by us
Hard truths about helping the poor
By Robert Kee
These are rough times. Marawi, London.
How should I go about doing my part for charity? Seems that the best way is to give through your profession.
How much can I give? It feels wrong to be enjoying such comfort when there people with no food, no clothes, and no hope.
By Danielle Ofri
Journeys with my patients
First of all, and most of all, I am a doctor. Regardless of the capabilities that I master and the self-fulfilment that accumulates, it is not about me. It is not about how smart and amazing I become. Even if that feels good. All this that I’m learning, it is for the patients, the ones who are suffering and the ones who come with all their pain and vulnerabilities.
It is not just a broken bone or a torn tendon. I am treating a whole person. May I always have compassion, patience and respect for my patients.
There is so much suffering, so much injustice, so much that cannot be explained. Why them, and not me? We won’t ever fully know. So, we can only, and should only move forward. What can I do for them?